You are suppose to forgive your wife at all times--but over 50% of all marriages in the US end in divorce. When is there a time you don't forgive and best not to forgive. After 1 1/2 years after my wife filed for divorce she wanted to get back together and I would not forgive her. Why? When you start wearing your wedding ring you have made a commitment to God-A contract with God. In your Wedding Vows you state you will LAWFULLY and WILLFULLY take your spouse etc. LAWFULLY is a marriage contract and a vow with your wife that you will love etc. WILLFULLY is a vow with God and your belief in the sanctity of marriage. My wife committed adultery and was also mentally ill that devastated our marriage. She did not believe in our wedding vows or the sanctity of marriage. Our marriage was a late in life marriage that lasted 13 years plus a 9 year divorce. I'm now 77. My wife was married 22 years before I met her with 2 boys 16 and 18. We married 2 years after this nasty divorce that I didn't know about. By not forgiving her I had at also deal with her attorney- Chris Lombardo- the most unethical attorney in the US. He drug out the divorce where he and Judge Gentile stole 90 % of my net worth or $6 1/2 million of my $7 million net worth. It was cheaper to keep her but dealing with her mental illness and Lombardo's unethical ways has almost killed me. I had 6 heart operations from the 11th year of marriage until she asked to get back together. My wife lied to me to get me to marry her. She kept saying she had $400,000 so I would marry her I was worth millions. 1. She never told me she was mentally ill--she is in 100% denial of this --and she was able to hide the mental illness for about 10 years of our 13 year marriage. Not many red flags. See video 2 on my website of her disorders. . brentcircle.net. 2. She had a criminal record before we married I didn't know about. She beat up her first husband and he filed charges. 3. She put both her boys in jail 15 times each by faking domestic violence before they were 15. She put one boy in a mental institution. 4. She told me she got custody of both boys and the marital house but got neither because of her mental illness. I didn't know any of this--she covered up her mental illness She lied and told me she lived in a condo because the boys were to difficult to work with. 5. She was planning our divorce before we married. She married for money and not love--a greedy gold digger. She never wore her wedding ring our entire marriage. Our wedding vows meant nothing to her. She stopped going to church when we married. It got worse where I couldn't forgive. 6. Her mental illness got out of hand when I came very sick with A-Fib - a heart problem of which I had 6 heart operations. She waited til I was very sick to let lose with mental illness in full force. This was in about the 11th to 12th year of marriage. 7. She faked domestic violence and put me in jail twice and had Lombardo keep up the false charges that led to felony murder of my family member after she filed for divorce. My wife is guilty of felony murder. She also hit me once and tore the skin off my back. 8. During the outbursts of mental illness her mood swings got out of hand. She would yell and scream at the top of her lungs every other day where she would froth at the mouth and nose. Very sad to watch. A very different person. Her mood swings were so bad we couldn't socialize with others and she loved embarrassing me in public. 9. She became very deceitful. She bought a $50,000 stock with joint money and lost it in a week. She never dealt with the stock market before. I helped get the Merrill Lynch lady fired. She left me on my death bed at our Wisconsin home and took my SUV and the 2 dogs to our Florida home in the middle of the night. I had no vehicle to use. Her car was in Florida. When we got married she put all her money in her individual account - she never got married. Latter during the divorce she sold our Florida home while I'm very sick with A-fib in Wisconsin and bought another house the same day with joint money and put it her name only and fake name the same day. During years 11-to-13 she kicked me out of the house many times. It caused my heart problems that made it tough to forgive. She had no compassion - part of her mental illness. She fired every shrink we hired if they got close to telling her she had a mental illness. I tried to help her with this mental illness--she couldn't fire me so she divorced me. She told Lombardo I took a knife to her throat- a lie- Lombardo had her lie like all the others. 10 Lombardo knew my wife was mentally ill and I was very ill from A-fib. This when Lombardo and Gentile formed a conspiracy to steal my money. Reckless spending is part of the mental illness and since I would not take her back revenge set in and she let Lombardo and Gentile steal my net worth. This is Elder abuse and Lombardo had my wife perjure herself different than a signed settlement agreement to steal at will with the help of Judge Gentle. .11. Before she asked to get back together she was having sex with 2 guys- one a married judge in Collier County thinking it would help her in her divorce. I called that Judge many times in his chambers and he quit as a judge. Having sex with a mentally ill woman is Statutory Rape by this Judge. Even though I would not take her back I still cared for her that I didn't guys raping her also by Paul the Rapist. 12. The mental illness took a toll on me. About 3 years ago her older son got married and didn't invite his mother to the wedding. This was because of her mental illness--the boys hate their mother and I couldn't mend that fence. 13. 80% of the time my wife was ok but the mood swings were so bad that it was over whelming. Lombardo promoted Statutory rape of my wife to Paul the Rapist. Lombardo and Gentile are sexual predators. They raided my private investigators office. Why? Were they raping my wife also? Just circumstantial evidence. If my wife had cancer and committed Adultery i probably would have taken her back but the mental illness, her deceitfulness and her lack of compassion about killed me and made it an easier decision to not forgive. She broke many of the 10 Commandments and Lombardo broke 5 of the 10 Commandments in my divorce. 14. My health was also important and I made a decision to live than try to forgive her. I'm happy to be still be alive at 77 living with her mental illness and Lombaro's unethical ways. Stress is a killer. I'm just happy my 6th heart operation-an Ablation has held. Lombardo has put me in jail 9 times fighting corruption and I have gone through 32 Judges in my divorce--24 being criminal judges.